Video summary
Jordan Peterson argues that becoming a truly good person requires consciously adopting the role of heroes within our own personal narratives, drawing on Carl Jung's insight that profound ideas often originate from dreams rather than conscious thought alone. He illustrates this by noting how science emerged five hundred years ago as humanity realizing an ancient collective dream rooted in alchemy to uncover hidden benefits like health and wealth; however, while we mastered the technical aspects of these discoveries, we left their ethical dimensions unconscious, forcing scientists to adhere to implicit religious-like rules regarding truth and order. Because perceiving reality inevitably involves making value judgments structured by stories, Peterson contends that fiction is "hyper-real" and essential for simulating life's inevitable difficulties before they occur in actuality, allowing us to learn how to navigate them effectively through deep communication with partners rather than remaining infantile or reacting passively like deterministic machines.
To avoid becoming a pawn of whims dictated solely by past events or external objects, individuals must actively shape the unrevealed possibilities of each new day by developing a coherent vision for their lives through committed inquiry that functions as secularized prayer. This process involves writing down an ideal future self five years out without editing to acknowledge one's true desires, understanding that hiding these goals leads to betrayal while knowing them creates hope and motivation; it also requires defining both a positive vision of specific family dinners with no phones and a negative counterpart visualizing the "hell" of unchecked faults like addiction. If clarity is lacking in areas such as relationships or careers, Peterson suggests starting there as rules of thumb for building meaning, emphasizing that developing a noble vision justifies life's suffering and empowers one to contend with obstacles effectively, while also addressing societal issues by urging citizens to engage politically where opportunity thrives only when responsibility is abandoned.
The profound social impact of individual actions extends far beyond immediate expectations, illustrated by Peterson's experience investing heavily in formal attire before speaking to 150,000 people, which unexpectedly inspired many attendees—including young men purchasing their first suits—to dress formally and aim up toward adulthood. This phenomenon demonstrates how individual efforts to improve oneself create positive ripple effects that echo through society, proving that every action has significant consequences regardless of whether the intent was purely personal or public; similarly, his advocacy for a balanced drug policy combining decriminalization with treatment mandates reflects an understanding that both strict prohibition and total laissez-faire approaches fail, whereas responsible engagement in fields like politics allows even vaguely competent individuals to succeed. Ultimately, Peterson concludes that by mapping our past through exercises designed to reduce stress and constructing visions for the future, we not only improve health through deeper comprehension but also fulfill our duty as conscious agents who shape reality rather than merely reacting to it.
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Hello everybody.
I'm pleased to release another lecture
in my we who wrestle with God
collection.
I plan to make this a Sunday ritual far
into the foreseeable future.
Today's topic, how can you become a good
person?
We're all dreaming up how we should act
and we produce our theories. Our great
storytellers aggregate those theories
and portray them back to us in dramatic
form. We imitate the heroes of those
stories. Thus, we move ever closer to
being good. We can do this consciously,
too, explicitly, and aim at becoming the
heroes of our own personal stories.
Onto the show.
So a long time ago
was probably in the
mid to late 80s
I spent a lot of time
reading uh Carl Jung's work the Swiss
analytical psychologist student of Freud
student of Nietze both in equal
proportions very profound person
[snorts] incredibly imaginary ative deep
deep thinker sort of thinker that
frightens psychologists so badly I would
say they won't read him and so
and I was reading his works on alchemy
which of all the things Jung wrote are
the most difficult and the deepest
and uh
he said something he said a number of
things that I found extremely
fascinating
He construed
alchemy [clears throat] the alchemical
endeavor which lasted thousands and
thousands of years as a kind of dream.
It was Jung's idea
derived in part from Freud with
influences from Nietze that
are explicit ideas you know the ideas
that we can state and that we understand
most completely and can communicate most
directly had their origins in in the
imagination and in dreams. And and
that's a good way of understanding
dreams is that so Freud sort of thought
that dreams shed light on what you had
repressed and did not want to face or
hadn't integrated. And Jung believed
that
dreams were the birthplace of ideas.
Like ideas have to come from somewhere,
you know, and our notions of where we
get our ideas are unbelievably shallow.
You ask yourself a question.
You think up the answer or do you or
does an answer appear to you? And if it
appears to you,
where did it come from? And if you think
it up, why didn't you know it to begin
with?
So
the source of ideas is extraordinarily
mysterious.
Know Jung believed that ideas appeared
in the same way. You know, if you walk
into a kitchen and the table appears in
front of you,
you don't really think that you conjured
up the table. And it's not that much
different in the realm of thought. If
you ask yourself a question, you get an
answer.
There is the answer. But
it isn't any more obvious that it was
you that conjured it up than it is that
it was you that conjured up the table.
when you walk into a room.
Any case,
Jung believed that the dream was the
birthplace of the idea.
Now, to think about it, there's there's
another thing you can think about, I
suppose, is that, you know, there are
things that
there are things you just absolutely
don't understand at all. You don't even
know. You don't know them, right?
They're mysteries that are just
absolutely so far beyond you that
they're invisible. Then there's the
things you know you don't know. And
that's a large category of things, too.
It's not as large as the category of the
things you don't know that you don't
know, but it's pretty large. And then
there's the things you sort of
understand, and then there's the small
handful of things you've actually got
figured out. And there's a developmental
progression from the realm of the
absolutely unknown to the realm of the
thoroughly explicit.
And
the dream stands on the edge of the
absolutely unknown. That's partly why
dreams are so mysterious. You think,
well, you dream, you have a dream at
night or maybe you're daydreaming,
but you have a dream at night, let's
say, and you don't really understand the
dream. And you'd think, well,
what is this dream doing? And why
doesn't it make itself clearer? Why does
it need to be interpreted, let's say?
And obviously, it doesn't need to be
because you dream whether you interpret
them or not, but you can interpret
dreams. And it can be extremely helpful.
I did a lot of dream interpretation when
I was a therapist with my clients who
dreamed a lot. And you don't have to
interpret your dreams. They still
function even if you don't. But if you
do, sometimes you can accelerate your
development a lot. And it's analogous to
the difference in some ways between
reading a book like a fiction book,
let's say, which you can do and and
never think about the book at all. You
can just read it, or you can read the
book and you can think it through and
you can analyze it. And you know there's
there's additional value in the book if
you also think it through and analyze it
which is partly the utility let's say of
a humanities education or of the study
of literature in general. The story has
a function independent of your explicit
interpretation. But if you're careful
and you think and you collaborate with
others and you discuss then
you can probe more deeply into the book
and in principle that's a value and same
thing happens on the dream front. Now
Jung believed that he was trying to
understand why
the western world developed the
scientific endeavor
recently 500 years ago. I mean, you
could trace its roots back in some ways
to the rational philosophy, let's say,
of the Greeks, but that's even that's
only 3,000 years. And in the entire
history of humankind, that's that's like
yesterday, right? We've been
we've been creatures genetically
identical to ourselves for at least
350,000 years. And so 500 years or 3,000
years is just a tiny fraction of that.
Why did science emerge in the West and
nowhere else? Nowhere else in history.
And
this baby doesn't like alchemy, I would
say.
Um,
Jung believed that
the alchemical endeavor,
remember that was the endeavor to
make gold out of base metals, out of
lead. But it was more than that.
He believed that the alchemical endeavor
was the manifestation of a dream and but
a collective dream that lasted literally
thousands of years. And the dream was an
intuition that if you studied the
transformations of the material world,
you could benefit.
Now animals don't do that. They animals
don't systematically study the material
objective world to benefit from it. we
do that and we had to figure out that
you could do that and then we had to
figure out how to do that. And before we
could figure out that you could do that,
we had to dream up the notion that it
might be a useful idea. Now, the
philosopher stone, which is what the
alchemists were searching for, was a
miraculous
substance
that would confer upon the user
immortality,
perfect health,
and indefinite wealth.
And
you might think, well, that's a fiction
or it's a delusion,
but it's not. It's it's a hypothetical
ideal and it's a dream. And the dream is
there's something hidden in the world of
matter that if discovered would bestow
upon us
longer lives, better health and abundant
wealth. And that is what happened when
we developed the scientific process. We
learn to be healthier. We learn to live
longer. And we learn to be spectacularly
more wealthy.
And so
the groundwork for that endeavor was
laid by this dream.
By the time 500 years rolled around, the
early scientists Newton Bacon
in particular and Newton in particular
was an alchemist and most of what he
wrote was on alchemy and religion.
Physics was sort of a side venture for
Newton. They were searching for the
philosopher stone too. And but they
formalized the new technologies that
became the scientific endeavor. And then
Jung believed what happened. There was a
there was an ethical element to the
alchemical dream. The alchemists
were wrestling with trying to understand
what sort of people they would have to
transform themselves into so that they
could pursue the deepest mysteries in
the best possible way. You know, you
actually do get trained that way. If
you're trained as a scientist, there's
an ethical element to it which is
actually paramount.
This isn't exactly formalized
by scientists. It's more implicit. So,
one of the things, this is why I think
someone like Richard Dawkins, for
example, who's one of the world's most
famous atheists, is actually a deeply
religious man. And the reason I believe
that is because he embodies a kind of
ethic. And the ethic is that, well,
here's part of it.
There's order in the material world.
That's a hypothesis.
If you conduct yourself properly, you
can understand that order.
To conduct yourself properly as a
scientist would mean that you follow
what the
what careful observation
you follow the pathway that is laid down
by careful observation and you don't
deviate from it regardless of your
personal concerns. You have to put the
pursuit of truth above all. And any
scientist whose worth his salt does
that. Any scientist who doesn't do that
never discovers anything. All they do in
fact is pollute the scientific endeavor
and make things more difficult for
everyone else. Then you have to believe
that if you pursued the truth properly
and assessed the logic in the world that
that would be beneficial to you and to
other people, right? There's none of
that's proved to begin with. Those are
the your starting assumptions. Those are
the rules of the scientific game. Those
are the religious rules of the
scientific game.
Now a question that arises out of that
is how do you make yourself into that
kind of person? And I would say we don't
know how to do that. That's why it's
implicit in scientific training. I mean
my graduate supervisor at McGill, you
know, he was a
practical person. He helped his students
learn how to conduct themselves so that
they could communicate well, let's say,
with other scientists, so that they
could present their data well, so that
they could move their independent
careers forward in the practical sense.
But he also insisted explicitly and by
example that you didn't muck about with
the data, right? So you couldn't
jerrymander your statistics so that you
got the result that you needed so that
you could publish the paper that you
needed so that you could go to the right
conference to get a job. If you do that,
you're done as a scientist and so is
everybody else who's relying on you. But
it's it's a tricky thing to manage
because you can do a study as a
scientist and you can spend a year on it
and it doesn't work and you got nothing.
And you know, a year is a long
investment and nothing isn't a good
return. And you have to be willing to
take that risk if you're going to
actually discover something. And maybe
it won't be a year, it'll be five years
of false trails, right? And you have to
accept that. So how do you make yourself
into that sort of ethical person? Well,
there's a broader question under that
which is well, how do you make yourself
into an ethical person in general? Or
even why should you bother? Well, in the
scientific realm, if you're not ethical,
you're not a scientist, you're
you're the sort of narcissist who leads
yourself and many other people astray,
much to the detriment of the entire
enterprise and to the broader society,
especially given the power of scientific
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>> So the question of how to make yourself
an ethical actor is actually paramount
in the scientific world even though we
don't know the answer to it. And I would
say it's equally paramount in the
general world. Now, Jung,
the alchemists were wrestling with this
notion of what sort of person you'd have
to be to discover the philosopher stone.
What attitude would you have to adopt?
How would you have to construct yourself
if you were going to pursue the truth?
When alchemy turned in and there was a
technical element to the alchemical
enterprise as well. The alchemists were
the earliest chemists and they were
playing around with
matter and its transformations under
conditions of heat and pressure. And
they didn't have any idea what they were
doing, but they were starting to play.
And the technical side of science blew
up like mad starting 500 years ago. And
so we cottoned on to a technique that
enabled the investigation of the
material world to
progress at an exponential rate. And
here we are. And we ain't seen nothing
yet. I mean, all of us have lived
through technological transformations
that are just a string of miracles and
now they're happening every day and God
only knows what the consequence of
that's going to be. But Jung said,
well, we developed the technological
side of the enterprise, but we left the
ethical side
unconscious. And that's not good because
as your tools become
more powerful,
you better be better if you're going to
use them because for obvious reasons.
If you're, you know, two-year-olds, just
by sake of example, two-year-olds are
the most violent human beings. If you
group two-year-olds together with other
two-year-olds, they fight and they steal
and they bite and they kick. They scream
and they have tantrums.
They're ready for university at that
point. And so,
and then they learn over the next few
years, most of them, how to regulate
themselves as social beings.
But two-year-olds aren't very dangerous
because like they're this high and they
can't do anything. So, the fact that
they're violent doesn't matter and
uncontrolled doesn't really matter.
you know, even if they get in a fight,
two two-year-olds fighting aren't going
to do that much harm to each other.
But the impulse is there. Well, we're
not two-year-olds. We've got major
league tools and weapons. And boy, if we
don't have our act together, those
things are going to kick back. And that
might be more true on the artificial
intelligence front than it's been true
of anything we've developed yet. I mean,
the hydrogen bomb is a test case, you
know, and so far we've been wise enough,
thank God, not to use them, and they're
sufficiently terrifying,
like self-evidently so that not even
Stalin was tempted to actually launch
them, although there is evidence that he
was quite tempted to use them.
AI is more amorphous in that manner
because it isn't as evidently dangerous.
But
we're going to teach hyper intelligent
machines to be like us.
So we better be good.
Well,
how should you be good? Is there even
any such thing? And the thing is we
don't really have we don't have a solid
theory of that exactly. We're very
confused about that. Most of us are
we're materialist determinists.
That's the first problem. We think that
if we just gathered enough facts, we
would know how to act. That's actually
not true. It's technically untrue. It
doesn't matter how many facts you
gather.
You can't figure out how to act from the
facts. Partly because there's an
infinite number of facts. So the mere
aggregation of facts does not make you
wise.
There needs to be more to it than that.
There's some other domain of knowledge
that's necessary. Now, when I wrote Maps
of Meaning, I started to figure
something out.
I made a hypothesis in that book that
I've been working on
differentiating for still I'm doing that
now on stage, still trying to work it
through.
I started to understand that there
really were two separate domains of
knowledge.
They had to overlap, but they weren't
reducible to one another. And one is the
domain of scientific investigation. It's
the domain of the objective,
you know, and people say, well, there's
nothing but the objective facts. But as
I said, that runs into a major
impediment because there's an infinite
number of facts and you can't orient
yourself in the world of facts unless
you sequence the facts in terms of their
relative importance. And as soon as you
sequence the facts in terms of their
relative importance, you're making a
value judgment, right? Because to say
one thing comes before another, that's a
value judgment. to say that this is more
important than that. That's a value
judgment. And it turns out you can't
even perceive the world without making a
value judgment. You have to decide where
to point your eyes every second just to
see. You cannot see the world without
imposing a structure of value on it.
There's a revolutionary discovery. It's
emerged in about four different
disciplines over the last 30 years. No
one really understood that that was the
case, but that's been demonstrated
incontrovertibly. There's no among
people who know their field, AI
engineers, robotics engineers, literary
critics and biologists and psychologists
studying perception, they all came to
the same conclusion. That's the
conclusion. You see the world through a
hierarchy of value. A hierarchy of value
when you describe it is a story. You see
the world through a story.
You have to see the world through a
story. In fact, part of the reason we
like stories so much is because
we have to see the world through a
structure of value. And stories are how
we transmit that. So, for example, when
you go see a movie, what you're doing is
you're adopting
the value structure of the character
you're watching on the movie screen. You
can imagine it. Imagine a Batman and a
Joker. That's that's a very good
example. You know, Batman is a hero.
He's a positive figure, complex positive
figure because there's a darkness to
him, but he's a complex positive figure.
And the Joker obviously evil clown
figure. He's satanic essentially. And if
you're watching Batman, well then you
embody the ethos of the hero. And that's
the experience that you're having in the
theater is the author
sketches out for you the aims of the
hero, the targets and you adopt those
targets and then your emotions are guide
your emotions are guides to the
trajectory of that aim. So, for example,
if a hero is aiming at something, you're
watching a movie, and he makes a move
towards that goal successfully, you'll
feel positive emotion. He'll act that
out on stage, but you'll feel that
because that's what positive emotion is
for, by the way. Positive emotion
indicates to you that you're making
progress towards a valued goal. That's a
good thing to know, too, because it
means if you don't have any goals in
your life, or if your goals are spread
out and fragmented or trivial, you'll
have hardly any positive emotion. You
have to unify your goals and they you
have to have a high order goal and you
have to be able to progress towards it
or you have no positive emotion. And
then if the hero is facing impediments
and complexity in his pursuit of his
aims, he'll act out negative emotion,
frustration, anger, disappointment, uh
anxiety, that's the biggest one. And in
the case of failure, depress pain,
disappointment, and uh depression. And
you'll feel that too. And what you're
doing is you're trying to replicate,
emulate, imitate the aim of the hero and
to experience the emotions that are
associated with that. So you can
evaluate that as a pathway. So if you
see a romantic adventure, you might find
that uh stimulating and exciting and you
think that's a good way to live, right?
Or if you're watching an anti-hero, the
Joker or horror movie, you might think
that's a really good thing to avoid. And
then the movie helps you sort of sketch
out the domain of things that you should
desire and approach and the domain of
things that you should cast aside and
avoid. It's teaching you how to separate
the wheat from the chaff. And so
the domain of knowledge
that orients you ethically
is the domain that is literary. It's
fiction.
And and we modern people, we contrast
fiction and fact. Fiction isn't real.
Fact is real. It's like, yeah,
fiction is real, too.
It's it's real like an abstraction is
real. You know, you might say, well,
James Bond isn't real.
It's like, no, James Bond is hyper real.
It's like mathematics. Is mathematics
real? It's like, no, it's hyper real.
It's more real than reality. And you can
tell that because as soon as you're a
stellar mathematician,
the whole world opens up to you, right?
I mean, all of our computational power
is a consequence of mathematical
mastery. might be an abstraction, but
that doesn't make it not real. And
fiction is the same. It's that fiction
is abstraction, but that doesn't mean
it's not real. It's hyper real.
You You don't go to a movie to see the
same old thing. You can just see that at
home. You go to a movie to see what's
real distilled into what's most real.
You know, I've recommended to people
frequently that if they're interested in
fiction, they might consider reading
Dossi. And I would say read Crime and
Punishment because it's like the world's
greatest thriller. It's an amazing book.
It's incredibly plotted, tense
characterization,
uh, amazing conflict, brilliant
psychological analysis, but it's also a
fast-paced thriller. Like, he really
nailed the the noir crime genre.
And Dossiosk's characters are hyperreal.
They're like you except expanded and
multiplied, right? Or you could think
like his his villains are like you take
10 villains and you mix them together
and you pull out the hyper villain. And
you know that's Rolnikov in in Crime and
Punishment. And this is what happens in
movies. You get distillations of
of of story of character. You get
distillations of character. That's what
fiction is. It's distilled character
and character that isn't the world of
facts. Character is a pattern of action
and p action and attention in the world.
It's it's it's a different domain. How
should you what should you attend to?
That's a question. What should you
attend to? What should you orient
yourself towards? And how should you
conduct yourself? How should you act?
the world of literature
fiction that's its domain of
exploration. Then there's a hierarchy of
fiction
and you all know that everyone knows
that and you might say well why is this
relevant? You know who the hell cares
about the domain of literature? I'm
interested in stories, but so what? It's
like,
well, yeah, you live in a story.
You live a story. So that's so what?
That's another thing I learned from you.
He's like he thought that certainly part
of the purpose of psychotherapy, but
really part of the purpose of
enlightenment itself in life was the
discovery of what story was living
through you or that you lived because
there's a story. It might be a tragedy.
It might be a fragmented tragedy which I
wouldn't recommend. It might be a
fragmented tragedy that's seriously
aiming down living through you. You
probably want to figure that out because
it's possible you don't want to live out
a seriously fragmented tragedy that's
aiming down. You know, there's the
pleasures of martyrdom in that. Poor me.
Everything's going from bad to worse.
Look at how much I have to bear. The
whole world is conspiring against me.
You know, and you can make that true,
but that's just a pathway to, you know,
hell.
And maybe you don't want to go there.
And you might think, well, no, this has
nothing to do with me. It's like you're
either living out a great story or a
pathetic one. There's no nonstory route
here.
And then you might ask, well then what's
the greatest story that could grip you
or that you could live by? And that is
the central question. It's the central
question of literary criticism. It's
actually the central religious question.
And I sort of mean that by definition.
So here's a way of thinking about that.
So, you know, if you come home after
work, you turn on the TV, you want to
watch
sitcom, maybe, you know, it's shallow.
It's it's it's shallow entertainment.
It's not nothing, but you know, it's not
deep. And you know, the same thing if
you're listening to music, you know,
there's kind of music that sort of
catches your attention. The first time
you hear it, you like the song, but once
you've heard it three times, you never
want to hear it again. And then there's
another class of music where you might
not understand it the first time you
listen to it, but if you listen to it,
you know, five or 10 times, you start to
understand it. And there's some pieces
of music you can just listen to forever.
They're deep. And stories are like that.
There are shallow stories and there are
deep stories. And you all know that,
right? And it might be that after a hard
day at work, you just don't have the
mental
acumen for a deep story and you just
want something to preoccupy yourself.
But now and then, you know, you might be
in the mood for something with a bit
more depth. The same thing sort of
applies on the conversational front. You
know, you can have a shallow
conversation with the people that you
know, stay on the surface of things and
and sometimes that's just there to to
pass the time and maybe pleasantly
enough, but well, that's not going to
work with your wife, not over the long
run, or your husband, like because you
have to live with each other and because
you have to mutually confront the
terrible problems that make up life. If
you only communicate in a shallow way,
you won't form a relationship or a
personality that has the resilience and
wisdom to deal with terrible situations.
And so you have to engage in deep
communication with your partner or you
will suffer the consequences when a deep
problem comes along. And the reason that
you have to look deep into the domain of
ethics, let's say, into the fictional
domain, into the domain of character, is
because
one reason is because look, difficult
things are coming your way,
100% certainty. And you're either going
to be there to dance with them when they
make themselves manifest, or they're
going to come along, and there's going
to be no you there. And it's just going
to grind you up. And even something that
might have only hurt you can just
destroy you instead. And that seems like
not a very good medium to long-term
plan. So that's the reason for depth.
And you kind of know this too, eh?
Because you'll go to movies,
you go to see horror movies, for
example, or you go see movies about
serial killers. You'll go to movies that
disgust you and upset you and frighten
you, paralyze you even. And you think,
well, what the hell are you doing? Why
in the world would you choose
voluntarily and pay for the opportunity
to go and expose yourself to a bunch of
terrible things? And the answer is cuz
part of you knows that there's some
wisdom in going to voluntarily expose
yourself to terrible things because
terrible things are coming your way. And
you better get used to it and maybe even
get good at it. And one of the ways you
can do that is to practice a bit. And
fiction simulation because fiction is
simulation can help you simulate that.
And you don't want to you don't have
them want to have something terrible
that happens to you be the first
difficult thing you ever contended with.
Like that's just a recipe for disaster.
And that's a good thing to know about
your kids. It's like well how much
should you protect your kids? It's like
you're not there to protect your kids.
You're there to help them learn how to
confront
everything that's coming their way and
hopefully to master that. And that means
that you have to courageously
expose them to the whole world. And
that's a terrible thing. You know, uh
there's this great sculpture by
Michelangelo Paeta. It's Mary
and she has the body of her son Christ
as an adult in her arms after he's been
taken off the cross and he's all broken
to bits and uh she's
displaying him, that's a good way of
thinking about it, to the world. And
Michelangelo carved that thing I think
when he was 24, which is really
something because it's a it's a piece of
work. And I always think of it as the
female crucifix.
Why? Well, because it's a portrait of
her mo of a mother offering her broken
child to the world. Well, that's what
you do as a mother. There's or you
or you're what breaks your child.
You know, that's a vicious choice. Freud
knew this. You know, he knew that one of
the central dangers in families was a
eatable
relationship. And in an edible
relationship,
the protective capacity of the mother is
overemphasized.
And so
she holds the child too close. And there
can be a sexual element to that because
when things get out of hand, all sorts
of things get out of hand at the same
time. And in the edypal situation, the
mother encourages the child to remain
infantile. And then she becomes the
destructive force because no infantile
adult can
can what? No infantile adult can
well certainly can't thrive
because
you have to be an adult to deal with the
world because the world's difficult. And
so you have to prepare your children to
deal with that. And you do that by
pushing them forward, you know, maybe
right on the edge of their ability to
develop. And you have to establish a
relationship with your child to do that
because you have to know how much they
can take, right? Some kids, man. When I
used to take my little kids to the
playground, when I took Michaela to the
playground, she would sort of hang
around my legs for a while, you know,
she'd sit stand off to the edge and
watch the other kids. And it would take
her two or three minutes before she'd
start moving away, you know, into the
playground. And then she'd be out there
playing. She was she had that watchful
cautiousness. And Julian, my son, he was
like a puppy that you hold over water.
You know, if you hold a puppy over
water, their legs will be gone before
they hit the water. And that was he was
like on the playground. You take him to
the playground and before you put him on
the ground, his legs were already moving
and he was just gone,
you know. And so different kids have
different paces and the rate at which
they can expose themselves to novel and
dangerous situations varies. And there's
temperamental variability there just as
there is with all people. And you have
to establish a relationship with a
person to see where the proper edge is
for them. And then you have to keep them
on the edge. That's what you
want to do and should do and would find
most exciting and attractive if you
managed also with your wife or husband.
So you want to keep them on their toes.
And that's what they want too. And you
know the word Eve, you know, Adam and
Eve, Eve, the word Eve means beneficial
adversary in Hebrew. You think, well,
what does that mean? It's like, well,
it's like a sparring partner.
Or maybe you're it's one-on-one pickup
basketball and you have to pick an
opponent. It's like, you could pick
someone you could just stomp and then
you'd win. Or you could pick someone
who's a match for you or maybe even a
little bit better at some things. And so
they keep you on the edge, that edge of
development. And that's an exciting
place to be. It's a challenging place to
be. And if the game gets a little rough,
then you know things can go too far. But
fundamentally,
you want to be in that zone. It's called
the zone of proximal development. That's
the place where you're learning
optimally. And if you're challenged, if
you're dancing with someone properly,
then you're in the zone of proximal
development. That's also the zone of
play. Tammy touched on that a little bit
tonight when she was talking. You know,
she said that one of the things she
realized was that you couldn't enter
that domain of play if there were
issues between you that were
not thoroughly negotiated through. And
and that's a really useful thing to
know. I I knew as a clinician I noted
that with my clients
they had to spend about 90 minutes a
week in business discussion with their
wives let's say or their husbands to
clear out just the mechanical issues
that arose from the difficulties of
joint life economic issues issues of
household maintenance what how to deal
with the kids like day-to-day
practicalities you know and it's it's
not that surp surprising because running
a household is as complex as running a
small business and the notion that you'd
have to spend a certain amount of time
every week dealing with let's say
managerial and administrative issues.
It's sort of self-evident when you think
about it that way. But it's also very
interesting to know and I do think it's
true that if you don't do that well two
things happen. You don't get to play.
That's not good. But then the other this
is the other thing that happens because
you might say well I don't want to do
that because difficult things come up.
It's like, well, that's for sure because
life's difficult. And my advice, I
suppose, for my clinical clients was,
well, you could either spend 90 minutes
a week talking to your wife or you can
spend 90 minutes a week talking to her
divorce lawyer for, you know, $300 an
hour for 10 years while you fight over
your kids. Those are your options.
Or, you know, if you don't make it to
the divorce court, you can just leave
all these things that should be talked
about undone, and then your whole life
will degenerate into a kind of abysmal
complexity of
what?
Confusion and bitterness. And there's no
play in that, that's for sure. There's
just
an ever accelerating aging. and and if
things go badly enough, the desire just
to hurt each other, that just seems like
a very bad idea.
So, you spend 90 minutes a week, you
know, discussing how to keep things
straight and where you're both aiming
and why you're both aiming in that
direction and how you do it jointly.
This Okay, so back to the dream and the
story. Well,
the literary endeavor
is the dream of it's the collective
dream. That's a good way of thinking
about it. We're all dreaming up how we
should act. You know, and our great
storytellers aggregate our theories
about how we should act and portray them
back to us. They do that in movies. They
do that in books. They do that in TV
shows. Anything that's got that
fictional and dramatic end is the
reflection back to us of our dreams
about how we should act.
How might you make that practical?
Taking a page from Yung Jung said
[snorts]
you're going to act out a story. It
might be a tragedy. you should figure
out what your story is and you should
figure out what you want it to be and
then maybe you could act that out
instead.
So I I made these exercises
with my colleagues, my former graduate
supervisor, Robert Peele, who is a very
good guy who I still work with, he's in
his mid 80s now, and a student of mine
at Harvard who was an MIT trained
engineer, Daniel Higgins. And we talked
through this sort of thing a lot and we
wanted to do something practical about
it. And we had some rules for how we
were going to proceed practically when
we were developing psychological
interventions. And the rules were we had
to build an intervention that wouldn't
hurt anyone. That's the first thing you
should do if you're a medical
practitioner or a clinical practitioner.
Your first rule should be don't do
something stupid that will hurt people.
That's the hypocratic oath, you know.
Um, and
yes, well,
yeah, the other thing that you learn as
a wise social scientist as well is that
just because you think your stupid thing
will help people doesn't mean it will
because there's way more ways to hurt
people than are to help them. And your
mere good intentions, that's nothing.
So, I'll give you an example of that.
So, for a while, psychologists put
psychopaths in prison in group therapy.
Yeah. Well, see, look, you there's some
wisdom there. You you can see why that
maybe wasn't such a good idea. And the
reason it wasn't a good idea was because
they got a lot better at being
psychopaths with all that practice. And
so, and now it's actually quite well
documented because, you know, dealing
with antisocial people is a real
problem. And psychologists and other
professionals
have tried to crack that problem for a
long time. And one of the things they
definitely learned was don't group
psychopaths together so that they can
communicate and don't teach them
psychological tricks. So, you know, and
it sounds like a good idea. Take the
poor psychopaths, let them unbburden
their soul, walk them through the
psychotherrapeutic process with other
people. Everyone will win. It's like,
yeah, especially the psychopaths, as it
turns out. So that's just one example.
So we wanted to build tools that
wouldn't hurt anybody. We wanted to
build them so that they were extremely
inexpensive and widely distributable and
scalable and would require no
administrative overhead or
intermediation, no supervision. And we
wanted to do all that at a profit so
that we could continue generating more
tools and also generate enough capital
to market the the resultant programs.
And so the first program we built
was the self- authoring suite. And so
I'll just tell you about it a bit. It's
something you might think about doing.
Like you don't have to do it, but you
have to do something like it. and you do
do something like it, you're either
going to do it badly or well, and you
might as well do it well and you might
as well do it consciously because
otherwise you'll do it badly and
unconsciously and that's not
as good and it's takes a lot more time
and there's a lot more misery along the
way so you might as well do it
consciously. One of the things you do as
a psychotherapist is you help people
flesh out a vision for the future and
you help them straighten out the story
of their past. And story is like a map.
I suppose it's it's a description of the
territory with an indication of how you
should conduct yourself while you're
traversing the territory. And in the
self- authoring suite, there are three
exercises and the first one helps you
deal with your past. Now some people,
this is gerine to rule
nine. If old memories still upset you,
write them down carefully and
completely. If old memories still upset
you, if they still grip you, they come
back involuntarily,
it means that
there are holes in your map of the past.
There are places you've been that you
went to accidentally that were not good
places and you don't know how the hell
you got there. And
the wise unconscious parts of your mind
that are concerned with threat, they
don't like that. They think
your map of the world was faulty enough
so that you deviated into this hellish
place once before and you don't know
why. So that means it could happen
again. And so in so far as that part of
your mind is convinced that it could
happen again because you don't know what
happened. It'll never let you forget.
You can't forget anything you don't
understand, especially if it hurt you.
So in the past authoring program, this
is what you would do in therapy. It's
one of things you might do in therapy is
we have you break your life down into
seven epochs. You can break it down
however you want. You know, we kind of
naturally do that if you tell the story
of your life to someone. When I was in
elementary school, when I was in junior
high school, when I met my wife, my
first relationship, however that appears
to you, imagine you broke your life down
into seven sections, and then said,
"Well, just write down the most
significant things that happened to you
during those times, negative and
positive, and then
why do you think the negative things
happened?" And
what were you doing right so that the
positive things happened? And how could
you do more of that and less of the
things that got you in trouble?
And that's worth revisiting, you know,
cuz some of the things you do when
you're like 17 or 16 or five or 30, you
know, you were young and you didn't know
what the hell was going on and you did
stupid things and now maybe you're older
and somewhat wiser and you can go back
and take a look and you can think, well,
here's how I should have conducted
myself. And if I conduct myself like
that improved me going forward, things
will work better. And the part of your
mind that keeps track of how unstable
your existence is will be very pleased
to see you sort those things out. And
that's very good for your health, by the
way, because one of the ways your brain
computes how stressed you should be on
average is by computing how many
terrible things have happened to you in
the past that you don't know how to fix.
And the more of those there are, the
more your brain thinks that's how
dangerous the world is. And the more
dangerous the world is, the more you're
on edge and stressed. And stress makes
you old. Like the more stressed you are,
the faster you will age. There's no
distinction between those things. And so
if you can clean up your past, you lower
your levels of stress, you improve your
imunological functioning, and you
decrease the rate at which you age.
Plus, you won't be plagued by horrible
memories, and you should be able to move
forward with more effectiveness. So
that's a pretty good deal, and you can
do that badly. And so one of the
instructions we have in the self-
authoring program is don't be writing
this down perfectly. It's like what the
hell do you know and you're not a
professional writer anyways and so just
get it down
as stupidly as necessary and it'll
improve as you write through it. You can
edit it and clean it up, make it more
coherent and you want to work on it
until you think now I've got it. cuz you
want to have it cuz it's your bloody
life and so you want to have it.
And then the future authoring program,
this is the one we did the most research
on. There was a fair bit of evidence
before we made these programs that if
you got people to write about their
lives that that did prove produce
improvements in physical and
psychological health and that those
improvements were proportionate to the
degree that deeper understanding had
been reached. It wasn't a consequence of
emotional expression or catharsis. It
was a consequence of coming to a more
sophisticated understanding of how you
got to where you were and
the ability development of the ability
to protect yourself against that as you
were going forward. Why do you remember
the past?
so that you can duplicate things that
worked in the past and so that you can
cease to do the stupid things that hurt
you in the past in the future. You don't
remember the past to keep a record of
it. You remember the past so you can
extract out useful information going
forward. Well, that's that's the story
of your life. That useful information
going forward, that's the story of your
life on the future side.
So here's imagine there's a couple of
different ways of conceptualizing
yourself. You sort of conceptualize
yourself as a clockwork robot that's
driven forward by like deterministic
impulses and needs and and drives and
you're sort of a machine, a
deterministic machine driven forward by
causal processes in the world. That's
the modern metaphor for a human being.
And it's wrong. Um, it's wrong partly
because
no machine that works like that can
survive into the future because the
future is unpredictable. And so if
you're just an automaton,
you'll do the same thing that you did in
the past, but the future isn't the same
as the past. So that's not going to
work. So whatever you are, it's not
that.
It's also not exactly the case that what
you confront is a world of objects that
drive you forward. What you seem to
confront, what your consciousness is
for,
is to take the possibility that's in
front of you and to determine how it
might be shaped. Now, you know this. You
wake up in the morning and you're not
thinking about the furniture in the
bedroom. You're not thinking about the
objects around you. You're thinking,
"Oh, it's a new day." And maybe you're
happy about that. Maybe you're not. But
you're definitely thinking, "It's a new
day." And you're starting to grapple
with the possibilities of the day,
right? Because the day is a set of
unrevealed possibilities. That's what it
is. It's not a set of determined
objects. It's a set of unrevealed
possibilities. And you have a certain
degree of choice in relationship to that
set of possibilities. And if you have
any sense when you're sitting there in
bed, you're trying to figure out how to
turn that realm of possibility into the
actuality that you would like it to be.
Now, you can be all bent and warped in
that pursuit because maybe you're angry
and bitter and resentful and all you can
do is conjure up images of how you could
make your life worse or someone else's
and extract out the revenge that goes
along with that. And or you could be
thinking, you know, seize the day. What
could I do with this expansive
possibility that's in front of me?
That'll certainly be true on a daily
basis and it's true on a weekly basis
and monthly and yearly. Is this
tremendous expansive potential in front
of you and you're called upon to grapple
with it? To what end?
That's the question. That's always the
question. To what end?
To what end? That's the question of
fiction. Towards what end? Hero or
villain? There's a choice. And that's
just the beginning of the choice. To
what end?
Well, the future authoring program helps
people figure that out. So, it's it's
based in part on a on a prayer.
I think thought, by the way, is
secularized prayer because this is what
you do if you pray.
You ask yourself a question that you
want the answer to. You have to want the
answer. You actually have to want the
answer. And that's a dangerous place to
start. You know, because you might ask
yourself, do you want to know what your
wife thinks? And generally the answer to
that is no, not really.
But probably it'd be better if you knew.
Even though it would mean there is a lot
of work in front of you might be work
that would be good for you to do you
know and that and vice versa of course
what might you pray for let's say
well you might think well if I could
have if I could be who I could be and if
I could have what I needed and wanted
who would I be and what would that look
like? And this is a question and our
cultures are remarkably bad at this.
Like miraculously bad at this. We never
ask people this question. Not seriously,
not even once in their whole life. And
that is a kind of miracle of stupidity
because there isn't a more important
question. And so this exercise helps you
grapple with that. It's like here's the
deal. It's there's a gospel phrase that
underlies some of this conceptually.
Knock and the door will open. Ask and
you will receive. Seek and you will
find. You think, well, there's no way
that's true. It's like
maybe you're not asking with enough
commitment
because if you really want the answer to
a question, it means you really want the
answer. That means you'll give up
anything to get the answer. And that's a
hell of a thing to decide, especially
when the answer is going to be a little
on the unsettling side because you can
sit on the edge of your bed and you can
think, "What stupid things am I doing to
muck up my life?" And if you want an
answer,
you'll get it.
So, generally, you don't ask the
question, but you could.
In this exercise, you're asked to put
yourself into a particular state of
mind. It's like a meditative state of
mind. It's not any kind of, you know,
Zen Buddhist western mystical, you know,
West Coast California mystical exercise.
It's just, it's pretty straightforward.
It's like just imagine for a moment that
would be okay if things were set right
around you despite all your flaws. Just
give yourself the benefit of the doubt.
What would you say as an act of mercy? I
suppose
who could you be in 5 years if you could
be who you wanted to be? What would that
look like? Just in principle, you know,
let yourself dream. That's the reference
reference back to the dream. Let your
imagination run to daydream like a kid.
Five years from now, you can be who you
want to be. You can have what you need
and want, but you have to figure out
what it is. You have to allow yourself
to envision what it is. And that's
dangerous too because once you know what
you want and need, you can deny it to
yourself. You can betray yourself. And
so people will
break rule three. Do not hide unwanted
things in the fog. We hide from
ourselves what we most deeply want and
need because we're afraid we'll betray
ourselves in the pursuit. And fair
enough because you betray yourself. But
it's a very bad strategy because you
will not get what you want unless you
aim for it. And you will not aim for it
if you don't know what it is. And you
won't know what it is unless you let
yourself in on the secret.
Okay? So, write for 15 minutes. What do
you want? What do you need? And who
could you be? Don't edit. Don't
criticize. You're not going to get it
right anyways. But you can sketch out an
approximation, right? And that's not
bad. That that'll put you farther ahead
than you are now. And then you can work
on it again in a year or two years when
you know you're a little sharper cuz
you've moved a little farther down the
path. Any plan that's conscious and
thought through is better than no plan.
And so you might think, well, I'd make a
stupid plan. It's like fair enough. Make
a stupid plan. Implement it. Then you'll
find out where it's why it's stupid and
then you can make a better plan. And
that's life, man. And it's a successive
sequence of stupid plans that get
somewhat better as you proceed. And so,
so if you don't make a stupid plan,
well, that's right.
So, you sketch out what you want, now
you've got something to aim for. That's
useful because as we already pointed
out, if you're not moving towards
something that you want to aim at, you
don't have any positive emotion. And
that means you're hopeless. And so if
you set a goal
and you see yourself moving towards the
goal, now you have hope. And that's a
pretty good deal in a world that's rife
with suffering to have hope, you know,
and hope is a good bullwark against
catastrophe. And so if you're aiming at
something you regard as noble and
worthwhile, now you have hope. And then
you can break it down so that
even someone who lacks talent as much as
you could make some progress in that
direction. And it turns out that's all
you really need to do because progress
feeds on itself and starts to
accelerate. And so, you know, if you set
your goal and you're moving slowly to
begin with, as long as you're moving
forward, you're going to move faster and
faster. And and that's an iron law of
reality. Just like if you're aiming
down, you'll aim down faster and faster.
And so the next part of the exercise is
the reverse. It's like, okay, now we
have
a vision laid out, positive vision. You
can pursue that.
It's got to be something like something
you'd commit to, you know, a game you'd
like to play if it could only make
itself realized, right? It has to
justify the sacrifices that would go
along with its pursuit. And you have to
be convinced of that. It has to be an
honest game. Then you can do the
reverse. You can think, okay, if you
took stock of your faults, which you
know of most of them, some of them
anyways, and you really let that get out
of hand,
what sort of hell could you have in 5
years?
And you want to make that concrete. So
you know, you know, meth addiction,
alcoholism, serial affairs of the most
toddry type, catastrophic failure at
business, um, I don't know, whatever
your vice happens to be. And you want to
think that through. It's like, okay, if
I just let myself go, what's the nature
of the hell I would find myself in? And
you want to write that down because then
the next time you're tempted in that
direction, you can remember.
That's where this leads.
And it leads away from the place I want
to go. How about I don't do it?
Well, then you have a place to aim from
and a place to run away from. And that
puts you in a pretty motivated position.
And you need to be in a pretty motivated
position because there's lots of
obstacles to get the hell out of the
way.
And then you might say, I had clients
who said, 'Well, I don't really know
what I want.
I don't know what to do. I don't know
where the meaning is to be found in
life. And so I thought about that for a
long time. And I thought, well, where do
people find meaning? You know, just on
average, it's like, well, here's seven
ways of breaking your life into parts.
Most people want an intimate
relationship. Now, maybe you don't.
You probably do, but maybe you don't,
you know, and maybe it's fortunate for
someone else that you don't, but but
usually it's it's it's usually a bitter
lie that you don't, but maybe you're
misanthropic and better off on yourself
by by yourself. I'm not saying every
single person has to do all seven of
these things, but they're good rules of
thumb, especially if you don't know
which way is up. It's like, here's some
ways that might be up. Have a
relationship. Okay, if you could have
the relationship you wanted, what would
it look like? And this has to be there
has to be some detail in this. And you
can imagine this fairly concretely.
Imagine that you're sitting down to
dinner at your with your family just for
an hour, ordinary day, and it goes
really well.
And you'll have a little fantasy about
that. It's like, what does that look
like? Well, the food's good. Let's say
maybe you even get served something
you'd like to eat without a lot of
bitterness as a side dish. And you know,
maybe your kids are there and they're
polite and they contribute to the
conversation and they're thankful to the
person who made the meal. Imagine that.
And you communicate a little bit, you
know, and maybe there's a bit of game in
that, a little play in that, you know,
and nobody's on their phone. Or if
they're on their phone, they're on their
phone judiciously, you know. I don't
know. Whatever your vision is, but
that's very concrete. It's kind of
mundane in a way, you know, but you're
going to have dinner
10,000 times in the rest of your life.
It's going to be 10 to 15,000 times,
15,000 hours. You might as well get that
right. You know how you're treated when
you walk through the door after you work
all day. These are all parts of an
intimate relationship. You might as well
have a vision for that. You could always
share that with your partner and join
your visions together and maybe you
could both be who you need to be and get
what you want.
Family. Tammy has another story that she
tells about how she decided to work on
her relationship with her father and her
sisters and put that in order, you know,
and she did that when she was like 45,
pretty, you know, relatively late in
life, but she made it a priority and it
worked. And so for 20 years, she had a
great relationship with her sisters and
her father. And that had cascading
positive consequences. It's like, put
your family in order. First of all,
figure out what that would look like.
And you know, you might have some
miserable son of a in your family
that there's just no moving forward
with. And like that happens. You know,
you you get people who are so enscconced
in their misery that there's no
possibility of communication. It's like,
okay, well, you're going to have to walk
around that person. And you know, and
that happens. I'm I'm not trying to be,
you know, naively optimistic about this,
but most of the time the people who are
in your family are no worse than you.
And so, and they'd be actually kind of
happy if you made it a priority to to
sort things out. And one of the ways you
can do that is to really listen to them.
And and that's true with people in
general. But that's a good goal. Put put
your family in order. What do you want
on the friendship front? You know, it's
good to surround yourself with people
who are happy when things are going well
for you and who commiserate with you
genuinely when things aren't so good.
And it's okay to have friends like that.
And you could make that a goal. And you
might think, well, that means I would
have to not associate with certain
people. And I would say, well, maybe
they need to learn that
cuz if they're helping you aim down when
you're trying to aim up,
that's not so good for you and it's not
so good for them. So a little judgment
on that front,
you know, if it's not narcissistic,
it's good thing, not a bad thing. You
have a plan for your job or your career.
Job is something you have to do to keep
body and soul together. You wouldn't
necessarily pick it. Doesn't necessarily
have to be intrinsically meaningful, but
you're pull pulling against the traces
and you're contributing to the community
and you're making enough money so that
you can support your family and so good
for you. And a plan for that would be
all right. Maybe you're a bit more
fortunate and you have a career and so
you have a job that has some intrinsic
meaning and you can develop that too.
But either way, job or career, why not
have a plan? You know, I worked with
people in my clinical practice. One plan
we often made was let's see if we can
figure out how to make you three times
as much money in three years. Like what
would what would it take to do that? And
that was an interesting game to play.
And it often required a certain degree
of, you know, radical movement on the
part of the persons involved, but it was
almost invariably possible.
You know, it took a lot of work and a
lot of patching up of CVs, you know, a
lot of re-education and a lot of
planning, a lot of willingness to put
yourself out on the job market and to
learn how to do an interview and and and
to both become and present yourself as
the sort of person that an employer
would be happy to take a risk on. And
development of the ability to find an
employer had enough sense to want that,
right? It's not an easy thing to manage,
but you're not going to manage it unless
you like give it a shot. And there's no
reason that you can't do it in a
sophisticated way. I mean, people are
successful from time to time. One of
them could be you.
Perhaps if you'd allow it,
how are you going to educate yourself?
There's a multitude of ways to do that.
So, you stay on that developmental edge.
How do you take care of yourself
physically and and mentally like like
you take care of someone else that you
cared for? How do you regulate
temptation? Drug and alcohol abuse, you
know, the kind of temptations that are
out there. Maybe you drink. Well, how
what kind of drinker do you want to be?
You know, you want to be
Barney Gumble from Simpsons or,
you know, do you want to approach your
vice with a bit of sophistication?
That's worth thinking through.
You might as well have a plan for it.
Maybe it means you can't drink at all.
Depends on what you want and who you
want to be.
We added another component which we
haven't worked into the program yet.
It's like what should you do on the
civic front? You know, because you have
a civic responsibility. Maybe it's just
to your family just that's quite a lot.
But then you're going to have to take
some responsibility for the broader
community because someone has to. too.
And if it isn't you, it'll be some crazy
woke bastard. And so
[cheering]
well, and so that's the that's part of
this self- authoring process. What what
is it what is it part of? What's part of
developing a vision? Vision is a map.
Vision is a the story of your life. It's
a map of the past. It's a map for the
future. It's the story that you live in.
It's the structure that directs your
attention and aims your action
and you need you need to develop that.
It's going to you're going to inhabit it
one way or another. If you're hedonic
and chaotic, it just means that you
inhabit a world of fragmentaryary
narratives. You're just gripped by one
whim after another. And it's a
counterproductive way to live. And if
you don't develop a coherent vision for
yourself, you'll be the pawn of other
people or your whims. Those are the
alternatives. And that's a story, too.
Like that's the story of
that's the story of someone who's
immature and hedonically oriented.
That's the story of Peter Pan, you know,
refused to grow up and live in a world
of fantasy. Or there's the slave story
because if you're not the author of your
own ideal then you're playing a bit part
in someone else's story and they might
not have given you the best part. And so
you know and you can think too if the
world isn't laying itself out the way
you would want it to if you had your
choice then maybe you're not overlaying
the proper structure of interpretation
on it. And then you have to ask
yourselves like
how would I have to contend with the
possibility that's in front of me so
that the things that would justify my
life with all its suffering, how would
it lay how could that lay itself out so
that would work for me? You know,
because we all have difficult things to
contend with and and we'll have very
many difficult things to contend with.
And in all probability, you need a
reason to contend with them so that you
don't descend into like an abyss of
bitterness.
And maybe you don't have to because
maybe you could structure the way that
you're interacting with the world in a
manner that was sophisticated enough so
that you could have a great romantic
adventure and it would be of high enough
quality so that all of the difficulty
associated with it would be
well optimally that be part of the game.
You know, when you're playing
basketball, you don't put the hoop down
where you can just drop the ball through
it. We want to set it up high enough so
it's a bit of a challenge to to make the
shot. It's like well how much challenge
do you need in your life?
Maybe a lot. Maybe enough to justify its
suffering. That's a lot of challenge.
You know, maybe you have to see yourself
as someone who who can overcome even the
ultimate and obstacles in order to
reconcile yourself to existence. And
maybe that's what you're like in the
deepest recesses of your soul.
And that's the deepest religious claim
in some sense is that that is who you
are. You've forgotten it or you're
unwilling to realize it. Maybe you're
unwilling to take responsibility for it.
But but it's nonetheless the truth.
And I would say too that ties the whole
story back to the beginning of this talk
too which is
well Jung's insistence that
you know we blew up our technological
ability and left our ethical ability
primitive
because what happens if we blow up our
ethical ability to the same degree that
we've blown up our technological
ability? or means that everyone has to
wake up to some degree and become
developed enough to deal with the tools
that we've produced.
You know, we end up like China
and quickly and that's not such a good
idea. And I think that's your problem.
You know, part of the reason that Tammy
and I continue the tour is because well,
it's ridiculously exciting. It's a great
adventure, but it's also predicated on
the firm belief that
we all are constantly making a decision
in terms of the direction that things go
up or down. All of us and all of us
equally in some weird way and I don't
really understand that. You know, it is
the case that each of us is a center of
the cosmos in some fundamental sense.
And it's hard to understand that because
you can't really think of something that
has multiple centers. But we are all
each centers of consciousness. That's
indisputable. And in the final analysis,
we really don't know what that means. It
means something with metaphysical
significance, right? It's it means that
that mystery is the mystery of being.
It's a very profound
phenomenon.
What does it mean to be a center of
consciousness? Well, means that the
cosmos rotates around you in some
fundamental manner and that you shape
the manner in which it manifests itself
by your choices. And that's really the
case.
And then you think, well, that's a hell
of a thing. It's like, that's for sure.
It's a daunting realization, but it's
also one that has an in unlimited amount
of potential associated with it. Think,
well, what would happen if you played a
straight visionary game? You know, you
figured out just exactly who you could
be if you got your act together, and
then you spent the rest of your bloody
life doing nothing but trying to make
that manifest itself. Well, at minimum,
you'd be a hell of a lot better off than
you are now. And God only knows what you
could develop around you. You know, you
know perfectly well that in the past in
your life, there are thing there are
times when you really put the pedal to
the metal, let's say, and you got to
where the hell you were supposed to go.
And maybe you didn't do that very often,
but now and then you did it. You think,
"Yeah,
could be like that all the time." Maybe,
well, that's a good thing to think.
So, what's the conclusion?
You're supposed to live out the greatest
story ever told,
right? That's the religious duty. You
have to figure out how to realize that
in your own life, right? Because you're
you're bound by the specifics of your
time and place, right? You're you with
all your possibilities and flaws. You're
in this time that's got its
opportunities and its obstacles and you
have take that universal story of coping
with cataclysm and catastrophe and you
have to realize it in the confines of
your own life. That's your ethical duty.
And because it's such a cataclysmic
problem, you have to have a noble you
have to have nobility of vision to
manage it properly. And so you have to
develop that vision. And you do that by
you do that by dreaming. You have to
dream up something that justifies your
miserable existence.
And then you have to pursue that. And
God only knows what'll happen if you do
that. And you can be sure that if you do
that properly, it'll be the best thing
that could possibly happen. And that'd
be a great way to live, eh? To live so
that the best thing that was possibly
happening moment to moment was exactly
what was happening to you. And if you
developed your vision properly and you
pursued it properly, that's the way it
would be.
And I would say that if enough people do
that,
then as things speed up, which is what
they're doing right now, we'll go up.
And if enough people continue to do what
they're doing now, then we'll go down.
And then we can all decide. And I think
part of the reason that you're all here
is because you are deciding that. Up or
down?
So up. How about up?
Good enough. Thank you very much
everybody.
[cheering]
Thank you everyone.
Hey Tim.
>> Hello.
Greg said you're kind of articulate.
>> Is that what he said?
>> Yeah. [laughter]
>> Okay.
Judicial activism on both the provincial
and federal levels have set legal
precedents harmful to Canadian society.
How do Canadians fight back against
this?
>> Was that was that upvoted a lot?
>> Pardon me.
>> Was that uploaded a lot?
>> Was that
>> was that question upfoted a lot?
>> Not really.
>> Okay. Okay. Okay. Yeah. I was just
curious.
>> Well, you never know. It might have been
later, so it couldn't have been.
[clears throat]
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well,
I venture into the realm of the
political with apprehension. But I will
tell you one thing that I've noticed.
Tammy and I have been traveling around
the world, the Western world primarily,
for quite a long time, really for four
years. And we've been a lot of places
and we've met a lot of people. And I can
tell you that Canada's international
reputation is in shambles.
You have no idea. Like even if you're
not a fan of the manner in which we're
currently operating this country,
the probability that you understand the
way Canada is perceived outside of the
country is very low. It's not good.
um
the
the uh bank account seizures
that was really the nail in the coffin.
That was shocking.
That even shocked the socialists in
Eastern Europe.
There are many things going on in this
country that are seriously not good.
And so
and jud the activism of the judiciary is
certainly one of those things. That's
the abdication of responsibility on the
part of the legislative branch. They
won't make difficult decisions. They
slough them off to the judiciary because
the judiciary now has more power than it
should because of that abdicated
responsibility. The woke power mongers
have invaded the legal field and now
they dominate it. I got the lawyers I
know in Ontario who have a clue have
told me multiple times that five years
ago when they took a court case, they
knew if they were going to win or lose
because they knew the precedence and
they knew if they had a strong case or
not. And if they had a strong case and
they knew the precedence, they could
predict the outcome. They told me
recently that they can't tell it all
anymore because the probability that the
judge will take it upon him or herself
to arbitrarily decide in some generally
woke direction is enough to make the
whole bloody process random. And that is
seriously not good. The only reason this
country is rich is because it's
ensconced inside the English common law
tradition. And that's a tradition of
precedent. And you demolish that
precedent, you're at the hands of the
idologues. That is not a good place to
be. And so
you know the the multiplication of say
human rights tribunals and that sort of
quasi judicial board. You see that
happening in universities too is that's
that's the activist judiciary spreading
its tentacles everywhere. And then you
might say well why does that happen? And
I would say and this is something worth
thinking about practically speaking.
What's the rule?
Notice that opportunity lurks where
responsibility has been abdicated.
That's a good thing to know. You know,
if if if you think that person's not
doing his job, that really bothers me.
It's like, well, it might be time for
you to step in and do the damn job. But
another
another issue is there is, well,
opportunity lurks where responsibility
has been abandoned. It's like, yeah,
opportunity for tyrants lurks. And so
to the degree that ideologically
adultled tyrant wannabes run the
country, it's because
we've abdicated our civic
responsibility. And so if you're not
happy with the people who make up your
local school board, it's like, well,
how'd they get there? It's not like
they're the world's most competent
people. The door was open. There was an
invitation.
No one's doing this. Well, I think I'll
take that. It's like, yeah, no kidding.
So, I would say if you're not happy with
the way the country is being run,
it's time to do something on the
political front. And, you know,
then
and then we could make this concrete.
You know, if if our institutions are so
pathological that there's no point in
getting in you getting involved, then
you better head for the hills and dig
yourself a seller because that's your
that's your basic option. If the
institution themselves are salvageable,
then someone better salvage them. And
then you might say, well, how would you
get involved if you wanted to? And why
would you? And I would say, well, it's
easy to get involved. It's like join a
political party, you know, join the
worst one if you want. And there's a
field of opportunity for you, you know,
and and and then you might say, why? And
I would say, well, first of all, because
it's your responsibility. And second of
all, how about because if you don't,
someone worse will. And then the next
thing is God only knows what you learn.
You know, maybe you're not a great
speaker and you can't think that
clearly. Maybe your, you know, instincts
are in the right place. But
because the political field in general
is underst staffed terribly, the
opportunity for people who are even
vaguely competent is ridiculously high.
And so you'll find if you do involve
yourself politically at whatever level
and you actually do the work that
opportunities will just multiply like
you can't believe. It'll it'll actually
stagger you because you'll find yourself
quickly in a position and you'll think,
"How the hell did I get in this
position?" And then you'll think, "I was
the most qualified person." And then
you'll think, "That's really
terrifying."
[laughter]
So like get get the hell at it, you
know? And I don't know what fraction of
civic of the civic responsibility you
have to take onto yourself, but zero is
the wrong amount. And so, you know,
there's 6,000 people in this hallway. If
everyone here determined as part of
their vision to take on a certain degree
of civic responsibility, that's enough
people just in this arena to completely
change certainly to change this
province.
So, you know, here's a way of sort of
figuring out where you should get
involved. What irritates you? You know,
you're fuming away while you're watching
the news. We have a rule now. I hate
this rule, but we have it. Anyways, I
would I'm very in airports
because I really hate airports. I think
they're training grounds for
totalitarians and they really great on
me. And so, I'm just crabby as hell
whenever I'm in an airport. And that's
not so fun for Tammy because, you know,
she knows that I don't like
totalitarians, but she also doesn't
like, you know, traveling with someone
who's like a what a a cactus on fire.
And so
the rule is now if I'm going to
about something, I have to write a
column about it. And so if it isn't
worth doing something about, then I have
to shut up. That's very annoying,
[laughter]
but it's a good rule, you know. It's a
good rule.
So,
so if something bugs you,
that's a marker to your responsibility
because it's bugging you for a reason.
It's bugging you cuz it's your problem.
It for whatever reason, it happens to be
your problem. And so, if you don't do
something about it,
either nothing will get done or someone
that you don't want to do something
about it will do something about it. And
then
and then we'll be going wherever the
hell we're going at the moment. And I
don't think that's a very good idea. So,
all right.
>> Two more.
>> Okay.
Okay. What are your thoughts on the
decriminalization of drugs and the
outcome on society?
Well,
the the war on drugs wasn't very
effective.
There were a lot of reasons for that.
one of the unintended outcomes. Remember
I said earlier that your stupid
intervention isn't going to do what you
think it is. It's going to do a bunch of
things you don't predict. You know, 20
years ago there was like five substances
that you could use to really screw up
your life. And now there's like 300. And
the reason there's 300 is because we
criminalized those five. And that just
incentivized chemists, many of them
Chinese, to produce variants of those
chemicals that weren't technically
illegal, that were often even more
addictive. And so we now we have instead
of heroin, now we have fentinyl. And
instead of empetamine, we have
methamphetamine. And I suspect that in
the not too distant future, we'll have
chemicals that'll make fentinel look
like pablum. [snorts] And so no one
expected that. It's like we'll make five
things illegal. now will have 300
things.
It doesn't look like that's good policy.
Now, the opposite of that is just let
people do what the hell they want. And
then you get San Francisco and that
doesn't look good. That doesn't look
good either. And uh lots of Toronto
could lots of Canada could look like San
Francisco in the next 10 years if if we
want that. And so
Portugal decriminalized all drugs, but
they didn't do it the San Francisco way.
You don't get to make a public nuisance
of yourself on your favorite chemical.
And so if you're unable to regulate your
own behavior, then you get shunted off
to treatment. Now, that's a bit
dangerous, right? Because it isn't
obvious you want to put mandatory
treatment in the hands of the state. But
we already kind of do that with prison
because prison is a form of mandatory
treatment for misbehavior.
So it looks like it doesn't look like
blanket prohibition on drug use is
useful. It didn't work with prohibition.
It certainly didn't work with marijuana.
Didn't really work with cocaine. It
caused a huge explosion in the prison
population and then it produced this
multiplication of addictive chemicals.
the there the approach in Portugal
seemed to work quite well which is like
somewhat liberal attitude towards the
availability of drugs on the at least
with regards to their criminal
what to criminal punishment but
an insistence on public order and on
treatment in the cases where people are
no longer able to regulate themselves
because of their drug use. And so
those policies already exist and there
are countries that have implemented
them. And if the dogooders in Canada who
want to be, you know, welcoming and
compassionate to the addicted
had the courage of their convictions,
they put some stick in along with the
carrot and then you know maybe we could
guide ourselves with some degree of
intelligence. So
>> okay
you are following me K this is number
this was the number one question
who uh he's an um he's a leader in the
Arab world that's his name your father
>> and Marian
Javi.
>> Okay. On Twitter.
>> On Twitter.
Me murdered more than 15,000 people.
Does this mean you support them?
>> The fact that I follow someone on
Twitter doesn't mean I support them. I
mean, why why would you draw that
conclusion?
I follow all sorts of people on Twitter
and they're often people I'm trying to
keep an eye on, not not people I
support. So um
and I would also say that and this is no
doubt due to my you know still remaining
vast pools of ignorance. Me isn't
someone whose activities I particularly
concentrate on and that isn't
necessarily because they're not worth
concentrating on. It's more the fact
that there's only so many things you can
concentrate on and that isn't one of the
things that has announced themselves to
me as requiring my concentration at this
moment. I'm not even saying that's
right. It's just that's just how it is.
So, but there's no reason to assume that
mere following means support. I mean, I
follow Camela Harris, you know,
whatever the I'm not supporting
whatever the hell she's doing, I'm not
supporting it. So, so I don't want to be
flippant about that answer. You know,
it's like I'm I'm that's that political
domain I'm not nearly as informed about
as I could be. That's part of the reason
why I'm following uh in the manner that
I am and trying to learn about it. But
it's not a matter of support. So,
that's the answer to that question.
>> Okay.
>> One more.
>> All right.
>> All right. Here's
one. Do you have a Kermit the Frog
themed suit? [laughter]
>> Not yet.
>> No, I should I should I should tell the
LGFG guys that. Yeah. So, this suit
manufacturer,
LGFG, they're called, they came to me
about a year ago with this proposal.
They just sent it to me out of the blue.
They said they would make me one suit
for each rule from my first book. And
they made a very creative set of suits.
They sent like an illustrated little
book along with it. And I got to tell
you about this one because this one's
really funny. So, this is a tuxedo.
And this fabric, which they invented, is
a cloth that's saturated with jade,
which is why it's green now. So they
crushed it, you know, down to the
molecular level, I suppose, and
impregnated the the cloth with it, which
is why it's all glittery like uh
Liberace. And uh and so and in the back
of these suits, one of the rules is
printed on each of the underneath the
collars. Now, this suit has
a Renaissance motif. It's the Garden of
Eden inside it as the lining. And this
is the pocket square which they custom
made. And it's I know you can't see it,
but I'll tell you what it is. It's Adam
and Eve. And there's the tree of the
knowledge of good and evil. And there's
the serpent. And [snorts]
they put Justin Trudeau's head on the
So that's
I think he stands I think he stands for
the sin of pride myself and uh so that's
ridiculously comical and I walked
through the suits they made and they
were funny and and witty and so I
thought fine, you know, if you want to
make me those suits then just go ahead.
They they made me a Twitter suit which
I've only worn once. Um it's light blue
quarter. It's a ridiculous thing. It's
light blue. First of all, baby blue.
It's Jesus. Like I haven't seen a baby
blue suit since, you know, demented
people wore them in the 1970s. And it's
corduroy. And uh they And then it has
this tie that's covered with Elon Musk
heads. And
so that's ridiculously funny. And they
brought this suit over and I thought,
"Oh, there's no bloody way I'll ever
wear that." And so I put it on and I
wore it one night. And I thought, I like
this suit that [laughter]
and Tammy at least didn't object too
much. And I think secretly she liked it,
too. And so they've made me some very
wild suits. And uh and uh
and this one's the funniest. I think
this Trudeau bloody
pocket square is ridiculously comical.
So, you know, and I'll tell I'll I'll
tell you a story. I'll tell you a little
story about this suits and and then
we'll close. And so, in 2017,
I rented
uh theater in Toronto and I did this
lecture series on Genesis and it was the
first public lecture series I'd done.
And so my family rented the theater and
we rented it for 16 shows. And so we
took a risk because we didn't know if
people would come and listen to the
lectures, you know, because I was
lecturing on Genesis. And I mean, who
the hell wants to come and listen to
that? It turned out lots of people did,
mostly young men, which was also
completely shocking. And so we packed
the theater and uh and then we rented a
theater in LA. I had my daughter, I
think Mick arranged that. That was
really comical, too, because
>> I didn't know what the hell I was doing.
I phoned up this theater and and and
I found out who the theater was and I
think I phoned them. It might have been
Michaela. And they were kind of
dismissive because it's a big theater.
It held 4,000 people. And you know,
first of all, performers don't phone
theaters and arrange for the rental.
They have agents that do that. They're
professionals that do that. So if you
phone a theater and ask to rent it, they
just think you're that you're insane.
And so they didn't know what to make of
me, but they did agree to rent the
theater to me. And it sold out. And so
then they were they were much more
pleased with me after that. But and then
we found at that point cuz I had
arranged to some people had arranged for
me to speak in London at the same time.
And as soon as they put the tickets on
sale, they all sold out. And so they
booked another hall and they all sold
out. And so then it and then the same
thing happened in New York. And so then
we realized that it looked like the
theaters would sell out wherever we
booked them. So we decided to arrange a
tour. And this agency, Creative Artists
Agency, got a hold of me at about the
same time.
>> They're always on the lookout for
um for people who can fill theaters
because that's what they do. and uh
they're good sharks and they're the
professionals at negotiating this sort
of thing. They've handled that ever
since. Anyways, we laid out this tour
and uh I was thinking about how to
prepare and I thought, well, I'm going
to prepare 100%. Because this is a
ridiculous opportunity and I'm going to
give it absolutely everything I've got.
And so I'd always dressed up as a
professor. I always wore a suit even
when I was very young. And I had my
reasons for that. My father was a
teacher and he always wore a suit and I
asked him why he did that at one point
and he said it was to show respect to
his students and I thought that was a
good answer. My dad was a hunter and a
kind of a rough guy and it's like he
lived in a suit. He wore it to work and
uh when I started teaching at Harvard I
wasn't much older than the students that
I was teaching and wearing a suit was
also a good way of establishing the
proper hierarchy and I'm not averse to
proper hierarchies. In fact, I know
they're necessary. And that helped, too,
cuz the students knew who the students
were and who the professor was, and we
got along just fine as a consequence.
So, when I went on tour, I thought, I'm
going to get some nice suits. And so, I
went to this tailor in Toronto, and I
bought a very nice blue suit. And I
spent like more money on it than I'd
spent in on clothes in my entire life.
And it really quite made me quite
nervous because I thought, you know, can
you really justify that sort of expense?
And I thought, "No bloody way. I'm going
out to talk to 150,000 people. I'm not
leaving anything anything to chance."
And so I bought that suit and a couple
of others. And um
and so here was one of the consequences.
This is so cool. And it wasn't what I
expected at all.
Now, as we travel around the world about
now, you guys are falling short in this
regard, I must say. But I think it's the
laid-back BC thing kicking in. But in
about a third to a half of the people
who come to the shows are dressed in
suits and they're often three-piece
suits. Yeah. And the couples who come
are often dressed quite formally like
they're at a wedding. And so that's so
cool to see. And a lot of the guys that
come up in the meet and greets
afterwards because I meet about 150
people after these shows. It's like the
first suit they've ever bought and they
bought it for the for the for the event.
And I had no idea when I, you know, laid
out the investment for that first suit
that it would have that kind of social
consequence, but it has. And it's nice
to see people,
it's nice to see young people dressed
like adults, you know? I mean, there's a
place for casual wear and fair enough on
all of that, but
it's just
it's just another example of the
unintended consequences, I suppose, of
aiming up. You know, I wanted to do
that, right? And then that had a social
consequence. And everything you do right
has a social consequence. Way more than
you think. Way more than you think. Who
knows how far it echoes. You don't know.
Echoes through eternity. That's actually
true. the good and the harm you do, they
they they both echo through eternity.
That's a very daunting idea, but it's
true. And so
and so, no, I don't have a Kermit suit,
but it's a good idea. Maybe I'll ask
them about it. So, thank you all very
much for coming tonight. And thanks,
Tim.
>> You're welcome.
>> Very nice to see you all.