Essentials: Tools for Setting & Achieving Goals | Dr. Emily Balcetis
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In this episode of Huberman Lab Essentials, Dr. Emily Balcetis explores how vision and motivation intersect to influence goal achievement, challenging common assumptions about elite performance. Through interviews with Olympic athletes, she discovered that successful runners do not rely on a broad awareness of their surroundings but instead utilize a "narrowed focus," akin to wearing blinders or shining a spotlight directly on an immediate target like the finish line or a specific landmark ahead. Research demonstrated that when ordinary people adopted this strategy—ignoring peripheral distractions and fixating on a single point—they moved 27% faster in physical tasks while reporting 17% less pain compared to those who looked around naturally. This technique works by automating attention, allowing individuals to recalibrate their focus after hitting one sub-goal rather than being overwhelmed by the entire distance or environment. A critical insight from Dr. Balcetis's work involves debunking the efficacy of vision boards and dream boards as primary motivators for action. While these tools are excellent for identifying desires, she explains that merely visualizing a successful outcome can psychologically satisfy the brain before any real effort is expended. Citing research by Gabriele Oettingen at New York University, Dr. Balcetis notes that this premature satisfaction lowers systolic blood pressure and heart rate, signaling to the body that it has already accomplished its goal and reducing the physiological readiness required for action. Consequently, effective goal setting requires moving beyond abstract visualization into concrete planning: breaking down large objectives into manageable two-week plans and anticipating potential obstacles in advance. By pre-planning responses to likely failures—such as Michael Phelps practicing with leaking goggles before his historic 2008 Olympics performance—individuals can avoid panic when challenges arise, ensuring they have a "Plan B" ready rather than freezing under pressure. The conversation also addresses how physical state alters visual perception and motivation, revealing that the world literally looks different depending on one's energy levels. Studies showed that individuals who are overweight, chronically tired, or carrying heavy loads perceive distances as longer and hills as steeper compared to those in better condition. Dr. Balcetis replicated this effect by giving participants sugar-sweetened Kool-Aid versus Splenda; even though the subjects were unaware of which drink they consumed, those with actual glucose perceived their exercise finish lines as significantly closer than those without energy. This visual distortion creates a self-fulfilling prophecy where difficult tasks appear impossible before one begins. However, Dr. Balcetis emphasizes that this skewed perception is not immutable; by consciously applying the "narrowed focus" strategy regardless of physical fitness or body weight, anyone can induce a similar visual illusion to make goals feel more attainable and reduce the psychological barrier to starting an activity. Beyond physical health, these principles apply broadly to cognitive goals and self-assessment, particularly regarding memory reliability. Dr. Balcetis shares her personal experience learning drums while raising a child, where she found herself relying on faulty memories that made progress seem nonexistent despite consistent effort. Because the human brain is evolutionarily designed to filter out details rather than record them with precision, subjective recollection often leads to inaccurate assessments of trajectory and anxiety about missing deadlines. To counteract this, she advocates for collecting objective data using tools like apps that randomly ping users to log practice sessions or emotional states over time. By reviewing graphs of actual behavior versus perceived performance, individuals can correct their internal narrative, realizing they have likely made more progress than they remember. This shift from subjective feeling to objective evidence allows people to accurately calibrate their goals and maintain motivation even when facing significant life obstacles like parenting or demanding careers.
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Welcome to Huberman Lab Essentials,
[music] where we revisit past episodes
for the most potent and actionable
science-based tools for mental health,
physical health, and performance.
I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor
of neurobiology and ophthalmology at
Stanford School of Medicine. And now,
for my discussion with Dr. Emily
Balcetis. Well, thanks for being here.
It's my pleasure.
>> Yeah, I've been looking forward to this
for a long time,
uh because as a vision scientist uh who
is also very interested in real-life
tools and goal setting and motivation,
your work lands squarely in the middle
of those interests. Just to kick things
off, you could tell us just a little bit
about goal setting and goal retrieval.
What's the deal with vision and
motivation? How do those two things link
up?
>> When psychologists ask people like, "How
are you What are you doing to help make
progress on your goals?" They say all
kinds of things. A couple of things
always pop to the top, which is, you
know, self pep talks or I remind myself
of how important it is to to do this job
or put up post-it notes around uh to
like constantly be nagging me about what
I need to do. All of that takes a lot of
time and effort and commitment. And so,
what a surprise that people burn out,
right? It's exciting to work on a goal
when you when you first set it, you
might make some initial progress, but
then eventually we get you know, not
even to the halfway point before
things get real. Things are are
challenging and we fall by the wayside.
So, then I you know, with my team, I was
trying to think of like, "Well, what are
strategies that don't require as much
effort that we can automate, that we can
take advantage of what's already
happening within ourselves, within our
body, within our mind that might
overcome one of those challenges?" And
that's when we started to land on the
idea of vision. And we thought,
[clears throat] "You know what? There
are strategies that we can use to look
at the world in a different way and that
we can [clears throat] automate that
might help us to overcome some
obstacles, to make progress on our
goals, to maybe literally see
opportunities that we hadn't been able
to see before." You've published a
number of studies in this area, but
maybe you could highlight some of the
more important findings in the area of
how people can adjust their vision in
order to meet goals more quickly and
more efficiently. So, you know, we
started thinking about what are the
goals that are most important to people
that they struggle with the most. And
regardless of where you look or who you
ask or when you ask it, people's number
one goal is something related to their
health, right? So, one of the first
things that I did was um go over to
Brooklyn. There's a couple armories all
around um the the the boroughs here
around New York City. And one And the
one in Brooklyn in particular is now a
YMCA. You know, somebody had invited me,
a physical therapist, said, "Hey, you
should come out and and check out what's
happening here with your interest in
exercise and trying to find new ways of
helping people, new tactics that they
can add to their tool belt. Uh I think
you're going to find some interesting
people that are working out there, who,
as it turns out, are some of the fastest
runners in the world. Like, you know,
one of the people that was in the the
last Olympics before I showed up won the
gold medal for the 400 m. And I thought,
"When these people are running, I bet
they are like hyper aware of everything
that's going on in their surroundings.
Where are they relative to the
competition? What's happening in their
peripheral vision? What's going on on
the side? Who's behind them? Who's in
front of them?" They probably have this
like master sense, this master visual
plan at any point in time, and that's
what probably makes them elite.
So, when I started asking them, "Is that
the case? Do you Do you really pay
attention to what's in your
surroundings? What's behind you? What's
on the side?" They said, "No." Like, all
of them said, "No." And sometimes when I
do do that, it's a mistake. So, that was
surprising. Totally went against my
intuition about what they do that likely
contributes to their success.
What they said instead was that they are
hyperfocused. They assume this narrowed
focus of attention, almost like a
spotlight is is shining on a target.
Now, when they're running a short
distance, that target might literally be
the finish line, the line that they're
trying to cross. If it's a longer
distance, they set sub goals, like, you
know, the person, the shorts on the
person up ahead that they're trying to
beat. Or they choose some sort of stable
landmark, like a sign that that they
would pass by. It's like a spotlight is
shining just on that or like they have
blinders on the sides of their face.
That's all they're paying attention to.
And I thought, "Oh, that's something we
can play with, right?" Like, they are
elite and they are accomplished. So,
then we started thinking like, "Okay,
what about people who who aren't
competitive runners? Is this a tactic we
can teach people?" The answer is, "Yes.
You can tell people about what these
Olympic athletes are doing. Imagine that
there's a spotlight shining just on a
target. Choose Choose something up
ahead, the stop sign two blocks up that
you can you can just see.
And you know, imagine that you you have
blinders on so that you're not really
paying attention to the people that are
passing by or the buildings or the
garbage cans or the or the trucks that
are on the road. You know, tune those
out and focus in on that target until
you hit it and then choose another one,
right? Sort of recalibrate, choose the
next goal. Now, one of the first studies
that we did was was teach that strategy
and juxtapose or compare it against a
group that we said, "Just look around
naturally. You know, you might see that
finish line up ahead and there's things
on the periphery. Whatever your eyes
want to do, whatever you think is going
to work best, feel free to do that and
tell us what you're looking at." Then we
gave them a finish line. We created sort
of, you know, an exercise that's
moderately challenging um but possible.
We put ankle weights on that that
accounted [clears throat] for about 15%
of their body weight, told them to lift
their knees up, sort of high stepping to
a finish line. So, this would be
challenging
uh for them to do um but we said, you
know, it's an indicator of overall
health and fitness. Some of these people
had narrowed their focus of attention
and some were just looking more
expansively or naturally.
And what we found is that those people
that we trained, just everyday normal
people doing this this moderately
challenging exercise, they were able to
move 27% faster. They could do the
exercise more quickly, and they said it
hurt 17% less. Everybody was in the same
sort of circumstance, but yet their
experience was really different. So, we
were really excited about that, right?
Because it meant that this strategy, we
could use it on people who are not elite
athletes. It could be easily adopted, a
quick training session might can teach
people to look at the world in a
different way. Again, this narrowed
attention was different than whatever
they do naturally, the comparison group,
um but it had a big outcome. It had a
big difference on the way that they were
engaged in the exercise. Are they
focusing on a specific point or is it
kind of the entire horizon of that goal?
Because the finish line is indeed a
line. In our interviews with people, our
our sort of focus group studies,
um
it seems like it's more like a a
circular point. And that's in fact what
we're teaching people, what we're
training them to do. So, rather than
going broadly, looking across a line
from left to right, we are encouraging
them to like imagine a circle of light
that's shining on some target. Now, of
course, a finish line is a line, but if
they're staying in their lane, if
they're on a track, right? You can
imagine that there is that there is a
circle shining just on where in their
lane they'll cross that finish line. Or
if it's a stop sign, you could imagine a
circle of light illuminating that. So,
that's what we're teaching people to
use, and that's what seems to be
effective to maintain that focus rather
than sort of being pulled to engage with
peripheral vision. And there's some
amazing people um some runners in
history, like Joan Benoit Samuelson.
She's one of the first uh female
marathon competitors who has won has won
multiple marathons. She's Canadian. I
think she's won Feel free to correct me,
like, 10 marathons in in her life. Uh
and she talks about sort of not assuming
this like this wide but mm
but narrow wide but not deep or tall uh
attentional focus. She talks about like
finding the shorts on somebody ahead of
me and focusing on on those shorts until
she passes them and then resetting that
goal. The most pressing question I have
in my mind is, can we I
uh all of us use this strategy to make
the starting line a goal point? Because
for a lot of people, it's not about
going from start to finish, it's about
getting to start. And is there any
physiology or physiological changes I
should say to reflect the idea that
maybe just visually focusing on the
start line would actually get me more
excited as opposed to make me less
excited to engage in effort? Mhm.
There's certainly vision science that's
tied up in that very first stage of of
goal setting, like identifying what that
goal is in the first place and taking
those first steps. A lot of people's
go-to strategies that involve vision are
are vision boards or dream boards or,
you know, post-it notes, right? They're
creating some sort of visual
representation of what it is that they
want to accomplish. You know, almost
like a scrapbook, collect visual icons
that reflect where you want to be to
motivate yourself. It's a really common
tactic that's effective for identifying
what you want. But it may not actually
be effective for helping you to meet the
goal, to get the job done.
So, colleagues of mine at New York
University um have probed why. Why is
that? Why is just, you know, thinking
about what you want in your life and um
and sort of putting yourself vicariously
into those shoes, imagining what my life
will be like if I can accomplish
everything on this list,
why doesn't that work? Well, first of
all, does it work? The answer is no. And
why does it not work? Uh because what
happens, these colleagues, Gabriele
Oettingen and and her and her research
team have found, is that, you know,
going through and dreaming about or or
or visualizing how great my life will be
when I get X, Y, and Z done,
um that is that is like a goal
satisfied. I have identified what it is
that I want. I have experienced it, even
if just in an imaginary way. I've had
that positive experience of of thinking
about how great my life is going to be
when I get this thing done. And they
start to sort of rest on their laurels.
She's actually measured systolic blood
pressure and heart rate. And they found
that people who do that, who go through
that experience of visualizing how great
my life will be when I get X, Y, and Z
done, their their systolic blood
pressure, the bottom number on your
blood pressure reading,
decreases. Now, I'm all about finding
ways to relax, but motivation scientists
know that systolic blood pressure is
actually an indicator of our body's
readiness to get up and act, to do
something. Now, that can be the going
out for a walk, going out for a run,
hitting the gym. It can also be things
like doing math problems, right? Even if
it's it's something that's just mental,
systolic blood pressure actually goes up
in anticipation of your body or your
mind needing to do something, taking the
first steps on a goal. So, then it helps
us to understand of like, okay, if I've
just created this dream board, this
vision board, and put myself
psychologically in that space of a goal
satisfied, why is it bad that blood
pressure goes down? Because it means
your body is chilling out. It's like,
all right, cool. I just accomplished
something pretty major.
I'd actually now don't have the
physiological resources at the ready to
take the first step right now to do
something about that.
So, so that was a pretty monumental,
uh, finding for motivation scientists to
understand that like creating these
dream boards, these vision boards, or
to-do lists might actually backfire
because it in it in it of itself is the
creation of a goal and the satisfaction
of the goal, and then people
understandably give themselves some time
to just enjoy that positive experience.
Everything you're saying again is
consistent with what we know about the
physiology of dopamine circuits for
motivation. I have a a good friend who
perhaps in incidentally, perhaps not, is
a cardiologist at a major university.
Said that one of the major errors that
people make with book writing and
completion is they will tell people
they're going to write a book, and
people will say, oh, you definitely
should write a book. Everyone's going to
love your book, and they never end up
writing it. And his theory is that they
get so much
dopamine reward from that immediate
feedback with all the protection of
never having the book criticized that
they never write the book. I'm sure
there are exceptions to this, but um, I
guess it raises the question, what's the
better strategy? Yeah. So, I'm not
saying that people who enjoy dream board
creation should stop what they're doing.
But the process of goal setting
shouldn't stop with articulating what
the goal is. So, at that same point that
we're trying to figure out, what do we
want to do? What what is my vision for
the future? In those planning sessions,
we need to simultaneously uh, think
about a couple other things. One is um,
how are we going to get there? So, take
it out of the abstract, take it out of
this idyllic visual iconography, and
start thinking about the practical
day-to-day. We need to break it down
into more manageable goals, not just my
10-year plan for myself, but my 2-week
plan. What what can I accomplish in the
next 2 weeks and the 2 weeks after
that's going to set me on the right
trajectory. Plan big picture, think big
picture abstractly, but then also break
it down more concretely. That's probably
not surprising, but it's an important
aspect of the goal setting process.
Then again, Gabriele Oettingen in my
department has identified
[clears throat] a third, often
overlooked or under-appreciated stage
that has to happen at that goal in the
goal setting process. And that's
thinking about the obstacles that stand
in your way of success. And that it will
actually help improve motivation in the
long run.
And sometimes people think that that
like is counterintuitive. You're saying
like, for if I want to increase my
motivation, have more motivation, then I
need to think about how hard it's going
to be, all the ways that I'm going to
fail? Because it's like coming up with a
plan B, a plan C, plan D in advance of
actually experiencing that. If you were
on a boat and the boat started to sink,
that's not the time you want to start
looking for life jackets. You already
want to know where one is, so you can go
to it right away. And it's the same
thing with goal setting is that you want
to know, what am I working towards, how
am I going to get there, and if I
experience this obstacle,
here's what I'm going to do about it.
You may never experience that obstacle,
but if you do, you're probably going to
be shy on time, thin on resources, maybe
experiencing an anxiety that hijacks
your brain so you're not functioning at
that optimal level of judgment and
decision-making.
You want to already have like the snap
next step in place, so you can just hop
to it. Right? We're not going to do our
best thinking when we're in crisis mode.
Um, but we don't have to if we have used
if we have already used our resources in
advance to come up with that plan B or
that plan C. Michael Phelps, incredible
athlete, right? This is something that
he and his coach have routinely
incorporated into their
uh, into their training. Back in 2008,
he was hot for the first time on the
international stage. It was the Beijing
Olympics. Michael Phelps was on the
brink of doing something that no one
else in the history of the Olympic Games
has ever done, which is winning eight
gold medals in a single Olympiad.
At the time of this story, he had
already won seven, and he had just the
200 fly in front of him before he could
do what no one else has ever done, win
the eighth gold medal. And the fly is
his thing, right? This should have been
in this should have been easy, like a
no-brainer. He's going to win this, he's
going to break Olympic history.
As soon as he dove into the pool, his
goggles started to leak. And by the time
he had done three lengths of the pool,
he just had to flip around and and come
back to the to the starting line {slash}
finish line, back to the edge.
Um, so by the time that happened, his
goggles were completely filled with
water, and he was swimming blind.
I would have panicked. I would have sunk
to the bottom of the pool. I wouldn't
have even been in the pool, to be
honest. Like, I'm not a swimmer,
definitely not going to be in the
Olympics, but uh, but for him, he
didn't. It wasn't a moment of panic like
it probably would have been for nearly
every other person in that situation
because he had foreshadowed that kind of
possible failure. He had imagined that
obstacle hitting him in advance, and not
even just imagined it, but practiced it.
What will we do? He routinely practiced
swimming with his goggles not fully
secured on his face. His coach
notoriously would
rip the goggles off of his head, smash
them on the ground for maybe dramatic
effect or something so that he didn't
even have any goggles possible to grab
as he's as he's in practice.
So, because he had foreshadowed that
possibility and the solution, if my
goggles start to leak, then I will do,
in his case, start counting my strokes,
then I'll make it through. He knew
exactly how many strokes it would take
for him to get from one end of the pool
to the other. He started counting his
strokes. He won that he won that race,
the 200 fly. He won his eighth gold
medal, and he'd go on to win 15 more in
his career.
So, we might not all be swimmers, we
might not all aspire to Olympic-level
performance, but I love that example
because I think it it helps sort of
demystify or give us an alternative
perspective on the importance
um, and the motivational reasons why
thinking about obstacles in advance,
thinking about the ways the two, three,
four ways that your plan might go awry
is actually effective at helping us to
overcome the obstacle that might
otherwise lead us to throw in the towel.
So, I do think that there's great power
in thinking about our visual experience
alongside other tactics that we might
use for meeting our goals. I have a
question, and I to be honest, I know the
answer in advance, but I'd love for you
to tell us a bit about how unfit people
view the world versus how fit people
view the world, or how unmotivated
people visually see the world as opposed
to highly motivated people. Maybe you
could describe that study. I think it's
a particularly important one, mostly
because
yes, it identifies a perhaps a
physiological or psychological
differences between motivated and
unmotivated or or fit and unfit people,
but it also provides a path to to remedy
that.
>> Yeah, so out of my lab, but also out of
several other labs, there's been work
looking looking at that relation between
states of the body and visual
experiences. They haven't necessarily
tried to integrate the motivation
science element to it, but they were
looking to see do visual experiences
change as a function of different states
of our body? So, they've looked at
people who experience chronic fatigue,
the elderly, people who are overweight,
those that are, you know, wearing
wearing heavy backpacks, and so who are
sort of put into that experience of
being overweight, what happens to their
perceptions of the environment? Well,
what they find is that distances look
further to those that are overweight,
chronically tired, older rather than
younger, weighted down with with extra
baggage. Um,
distances look farther and hills look
steeper. We've done some of those
studies, too, where we try to like give
people more energy or or deprive them of
of energy and see does that change their
their perception of space? They do this
a lot in medical studies. You give
somebody a a drug, and you give somebody
a placebo, a sugar pill, and then
importantly, nobody really knows who's
got what until you've analyzed all the
data and the results are revealed that
that these are the people that that had
the drug, the active agent. Same idea in
the psychological research. In this
case, what we did was give people
Kool-Aid to drink. And for some people,
that Kool-Aid was sweetened with sugar,
an actual caloric entity. It could give
them energy.
Other people drank Kool-Aid sweetened
with Splenda. So, yeah, it's sweet, but
it actually doesn't have any caloric
value. You're not giving people energy,
you're just giving them that that
experience
of of sweetness. Now, some people, of
course, are really good at identifying
like what's what's real sugar and what's
Splenda, but when you put it in the
Kool-Aid, a pretty noxious powder, it
actually masked it for everybody, and
nobody had any idea. We asked them to
guess what they got, we tested them
afterwards, and they were wrong. So,
nobody is able to guess
with accuracy what was your drink
sweetened with, which is important
because they were blind. That I mean,
the way that scientists use it, they
didn't know what it was that they were
drinking. We give them about 10 to 15
minutes for that sugar to metabolize,
and we measured
their circulating blood glucose levels
to make sure that we had in fact given
their body circulating, you know,
circulating glucose energy that they
might use in the next activity. And and
the researcher again didn't know whether
they had just served sugar or Splenda.
Then we asked people to estimate
distance. So, we gave some people more
energy, or we kept others sort of at
like whatever their normal level was.
And what we found is that those people
who didn't even know it, but who had
been given more energy by drinking
Kool-Aid sweetened with sugar, perceived
their space as as more constricted. They
that a visual illusion of proximity was
induced. They felt that their finish
line, again in the context of an
exercise task, was closer to them.
>> [clears throat]
>> So, in just the same way that these
other physiology labs, vision science
physiology labs found that people who
are chronically tired, who don't have
don't feel like they have as much
energy, or those that are physically
weighted down, and for whom, you know,
moving within an environment is more
costly, um we could create that
experience for people. We did an
experiment called version of that, that
if you have more energy, the world looks
easier. The distances to a finish line
don't look as far.
So, that was some of the experimental
evidence that we had, um to show that
people's states of their body do impact
their visual experience. Now, I'm a
motivation researcher, so for me the big
question is, well, like what's the point
of that study then, besides just showing
this connection between the body and the
eyes and the visual experience? We think
that that's fundamental to one of the
reasons that people experience
difficulty when they're exercising. When
it's really harder for your body because
of its physical state to move within a
space, you might say like, well, why
don't they just go exercise? Because the
world looks harder to them. Because that
distance that that they're supposed to
walk because a doctor tells them to, or
that a partner encourages them to, or a
hill that they should hike up because
someone told them that would be good for
their health, it looks more challenging
to them than it does to somebody who
isn't who who isn't who's in who's in
better physical health. Now, if it looks
that way, if it looks harder, if it
feels like it might be harder,
then psychologically we know that it is.
When you have set yourself up
psychologically, mentally for that kind
of failure experience, like, I don't
know that I have the resources that to
get this job done. This this looks
really hard, you're already
motivationally in a place uh for this
task to be closer to impossible for you.
So, to put it all together then, what we
know is that people whose bodies might
make it more challenging for them to
exercise, um are seeing the world in a
more challenging way, and that is having
these downstream motivational and
psychological effects that makes it less
likely for them to try to take on the
task in the first place, or to
experience it as harder than than other
people would or do. Is the solution the
same, however? Meaning, if these people
are taught to adjust their visual goal
line, or to set a visual spotlight on an
intermediate goal, can they overcome
some of this
uh this challenge that they face simply
by virtue of their skewed perception?
Yes. So, in all of the studies that we
have done, um looking at that connection
between this narrowed focus of attention
and improvements in exercise, we do not
find that it only works for the people
who are in shape, or that it backfires
for people who are out of shape. It
works for everybody. This is a strategy
that everybody can adopt because it's
just simply about like, what do you
allocate attentional resources to? What
do you sort of ignore, and what do you
focus on? And that in that visually
induces the same kind of illusion for
everybody, regardless of whether you're
overweight or you're or you're at your
target weight, um or if you're
struggling to get there, or you've
already accomplished where you want to
be.
That visual illusion can be induced for
everybody, and it has the same kinds of
consequences. Are there any studies
looking at how adrenaline or epinephrine
or any other stimulants impact
motivation? If you actually are more
physiologically aroused, or jazzed, or
whatever, you know, amped up, um or you
just think you are, uh in our studies we
have found that they work in the same
way, that it can produce the same kinds
of consequences. So, and I like that
because it tells us like, you can
actually change the state of your body
to induce these kinds of experiences,
or you can try to
you can just think that. You can trick
yourself. You can placebo effect
yourself out and produce the same kinds
of effects. I had to give up coffee like
12 years ago, not because not for any
>> I love the taste, and so decaf is my
jam, um but I can't drink the caffeine
because it it didn't actually do the
thing that it does for so many other
people, like make me feel more energized
and more awake. I just got sweaty and
jittery and anxious, and I couldn't
focus. And it happened to marry the same
kind of person. He also can't drink
caffeine, but loves the taste of coffee.
The interesting thing is that we both
have to have coffee in the morning to
feel like we're ready to go for the day.
So, it's just part of our routine or
whatever to have that taste and have
that sensation to feel like I'm ready to
take on the day, even though I mean,
yeah, decaf still has some caffeine in
it, but we're not drinking that much of
it to probably actually create a
caffeinated experience in our body, but
we're tricking ourselves psychologically
into into doing that thing that in years
past used to work for us both. I'd love
to uh about other kinds of goals,
meaning non-physical goals. Is there any
example or tactic that people could use
to um better approach cognitive goals,
of school, work, but that don't exist in
the fitness and sports domain?
>> Totally. A couple years ago, when when I
was writing the book, I I also had a
child. The same the same month that I
had the opportunity to like pull all
this research together is the same month
that that my son came to be.
And uh and I started to realize like, I
became a lot less interesting once he
was around. He was fascinating, but I
was changing diapers and feeding him,
and like that was it. People would come
over like, "What's up? What have you
been? Like, tell me something that's
going on in your life." And like all I
had to talk about was this what was
boring, and I just felt like I've lost
myself. I used to pride myself on the
crazy adventures and problems I would
get myself in, and I was a great
storyteller, and that all of a sudden
disappeared as soon as he came into the
world because he became my world.
So, then I started thinking like, I need
to pull back some coolness in if I ever
had it in the first place, but I need to
be a cooler person than I'm coming
across right now. So, I decided I want
to learn to play drums. I'm and I want
to be like a a one-hit wonder as a as a
rock star drummer. So, that's a goal
that I set for myself at the same time
that my son came into this world when I
was also trying to think about goal
setting and how to improve my ability
and all of our ability to to get a job
done when you're faced with some pretty
big obstacles. So, I got to practice all
these techniques that we're talking
about on myself and see for myself when
I tell people, "Hey, try this thing,
like narrowed focus of attention, does
that help with something like becoming a
better drummer?" And the answer is,
yeah, the tactics at least work for me
sometimes under some circumstances, and
they do for other people who try them
for other goals that aren't necessarily
about exercise. One that I found
particularly helpful was overcoming my
bad memory, that everybody's memories
are faulty, right? Everybody has sort of
a warped perception of the past. It
might be skewed more positively than
maybe we deserve, or it might be skewed
more negatively. If you feel that, you
know, what looms large in your mind as
you reflect on something from the past
are like the mistakes that you've made,
or the things that the social faux pas
that you had, or, you know, challenges
that you faced at work when you got in
trouble with a boss or with a colleague,
if that's what really stands out in your
mind,
or the good side of all of those
possibilities, we probably aren't
getting the world right. And and that is
something that our brain has evolved to
give us a faulty memory, to level and
sharpen, to not encode and remember and
be able to recall everything that we've
experienced with accuracy and precision.
And that's a problem when it comes to
assessing our own goal progress. When we
want to be our own accountant and try to
determine, how are we doing? If I want
to become a drummer,
am I on track for getting there before
X, before my time runs out? Am I going
to make it or not? And I think that's an
experience, whether they want to be a
drummer or not, that a lot of people can
resonate with, of like trying to
determine, is this trajectory, is this
rate of progress going to get the job
done by X amount of time? Will I have my
swimsuit body by summer, or will I save
enough for retirement by the time I hit
65?
For these goals where time is involved
and there is a deadline, uh we do take
moments to assess our our trajectory.
And if we just rely on our memory,
we're probably going to do a bad job of
assessing the the
that trajectory, of knowing whether
we're on pace to meeting our deadline.
And I found that to be the case as I was
thinking about, am I actually going to
be able to learn this song? I mean, I
know that it's going a lot slower than
it probably would for anybody else,
but to give myself a deadline and a
commitment, I decided I was going to put
on a show. I was going to invite
everybody I knew, and also people I
didn't know, and I was going to play my
one song for them. So, in the process of
like figuring out, am I going to be able
to play this show, I sent out
invitations. Like, the date is
committed. Like, people are coming to
listen to my one song. God bless them.
Um it how was it going to go? And and it
felt awful. It just felt like I am not
making progress here because there's a
lot more things that actually are
pressing, right? Like, the kid does need
to get fed. I do have to go to my day
job. The editor is asking for the next
draft of this book, and that is going to
take precedence, like it does for so
many people, that that things command
your your bandwidth, even when you have
this goal that you've committed to and
that you've got, you know, on the books.
And so, I just felt this looming anxiety
about this this goal that would require,
you know, like didn't have to be daily
practice, but like you can't you can't
cram that kind of a a goal. It does
take, you know, committed investment for
a sustained period of time.
And so, I had this looming anxiety that
I'm not making good enough progress.
But that's because I was relying on my
memory and my brain to to recall like,
how many times did you practice? What
was it like the last time you practiced?
What was it like when you tried to play
this bit, you know, or this riff like 2
weeks ago? Have you gotten any better
since then? And it just felt like, no. I
haven't practiced enough. I don't
remember when the last time I played
was, but it definitely doesn't feel like
I'm getting any better. Then I thought,
you know what? I should stop relying on
my brain to tell me where am I at, and
is is am I on an upward slope here? I
need to look at the data. I love data.
Scientists love data. So, I started to
collect data on myself. What I did was
download this app that a friend had told
me about called the Reporter app.
There's lots of these kinds of things
out there. Basically, it just like sets
up your phone to randomly ping you with
whatever questions you want your phone
to ask. It records your answers, you can
download the data, you can make pretty
graphs to see am I getting how what's my
change and how I've answered these
questions over time. So, I did that for
a month. I had my phone ask me, you
know, a couple times a day, "Did you
practice since last time I asked you?"
My phone says, "Did you practice?" If
mostly it was no, and if yes, then it
would funnel a couple other questions
like, "How did you do? How do you feel?
Check a couple of different emotion
words now about your experience when you
played." And I did that for a month.
After a month, went into my office,
downloaded the data, and first took
stock before I looked at the numbers
like, "How do I think I did over the
last month?" And I thought, "Same as
every other month. I like I didn't
really get anywhere. Yeah, I practiced,
but I still feel awful." But what I
found from the data was my memory was
totally wrong. I actually had practiced
far more times than I remembered. And
when I looked at like my emotion words
that I used, it was a clear upward
trajectory. Yeah, I did cry. That part I
hadn't misremembered or made up.
But by the end of that month, like I had
gotten a compliment from my husband who
actually is a drummer and said like,
"Hey, that that wasn't that bad." All of
which is to say, I needed to see to
collect that data on myself and to look
at it objectively,
accurately, and completely because my
brain wasn't doing that for me.
That visual experience of of downloading
that data and and looking at like what
was my actual experience
um gave me a better insight as I was
trying to assess the trajectory of my of
my progress. I became a more accurate
accountant of my own progress,
which is important for, you know,
setting goals or resetting them when you
need to calibrate in light of of what's
left to do and how much time do you have
to do it in. Fantastic. Well,
you've given us a ton of mechanistic and
uh conceptual and practical information.
So, I'm speaking for a lot of people
when I say, "Thank you for taking the
time out of your schedule amidst kids
and running a lab and teaching at the
university." And we hope to have you
back again. Thank you so much. It was a
great conversation. Thank [music] you.
Thanks.
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